09/25/2026
So what’s Tahnee up to these days? I’m just simply learning to exist lol. Today was my original last day of service for Naija Wife Kitchen before we had to unexpectedly close on 9/4/26 instead. Since then there have been a wave of emotions on my end, both good and not so good.
Do I feel like a failure? Absolutely NOT. Naija Wife Kitchen accomplished everything I aimed for it to do which was make West African cuisine popular in Oklahoma alongside other more common ethic cuisines. From 2020-2026, I managed to keep a brick and mortar open 5 of those years which became more and more successful each location, each year, which eventually led me all the way to the James Beard Awards. We didn’t just go local, honey we went NATIONAL! So no, I don’t think I failed in a business aspect …I honestly just believe I failed in separating my own personal identity from my brand.
This week has been rough physically because of an ugly back to school bug I was “blessed” with by my 3rd grader lol so we have both been down on antibiotics since Monday. Then with me being in bed most of the time, my mind wandered so much that I had a full on anxiety attack Wednesday because I DONT have anything to worry about 🤦🏾♀️
For 6 years I’ve been the Hustle Woman, The Boss Lady, the one putting out fires, worried about inventory, marketing, going to the next level, new menu items, improving original menu items, managing staff, pivoting with call ins and late arrivals ect. I was the Chef, the GM, Marketing Director, Server, HR, and Cleaning crew. Plus dealing with constant harassment both online and in person because some people believe that an American woman shouldn’t be cooking Nigerian food and certainly not owning a Nigerian restaurant…like y’all they tried to basically run me out of MY hometown. I will sit down and tell EVERYTHING when the time is right because it is my story to tell and it finally deserves to be heard. From random individuals, to other cooks and even other local restaurant owners and their “peers” …it was pure evil for literally the most stupid reason ever. The stress that caused me almost daily was enough to keep my blood pressure elevated and mentally on edge because I didn’t know what they were going to do next or who they were going to send to intimidate me the next time. It was CRAZY and has been going on for YEARS.
But anyways, Wednesday I literally started panicking …because for the first time in 6 years I couldn’t think of a single thing I had to panic about and my nervous system didn’t know how to regulate that feeling. It’s crazy how the human body works. Survival mode, “fight or flight”, chronic stress…our bodies are not meant to function this way, yet this has been my reality for a long time.
So like I said, these days I’m just learning to exist. I have some time to discover Tahnee apart from Naija Wife and it’s just in time for my 40th birthday coming up in a few months. I won’t be gone from the culinary scene forever y’all. Just give me a little bit of time and I’ll brb lol. Love y’all and thank you for rocking with me for so long. Don’t go anywhere because I have something for you soon. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll be seeing you soon 😉
Love,
Just Tahnee 🫶🏾