08/22/2022
Ever look back on your life and say WOW!!!!!
Seems like only yesterday, living in Cali - just living a carefree life.
PS the song attached by Black Keys has inspired this post... OK COMING OUT!!!!
TURN AWAY NOW - PERSONAL S**T IS ABOUT TO FLY!!!!
YES, IM OPENING PANDORA's BOX.... AND IT FEELS GOOD!
Fast forward a few years... I'm Married - in Houston and living day to day - And Miserable as Heck.
Fast Forward Several Years...
and YES even further - I'm Married - Happy and thanking God for all he has provided! - LOVE THIS ONE!!! - Life 360!
So what about all the stuff in between? Just the Speed Bump of life and a mindset of...
-- Learning to accept where you are! (ie Who Are You?)
-- Is What You're Doing Helping? (Seriously What in the World are You Doing?) AND
-- What Do You Want to Do About It?
Love pictures... They stir so many emotions just by pausing and reminiscing. Just think of a time when you were happiest. You can remember the sounds, the feelings, and even the smells.
It works both ways... Just think of the last argument. Feeling a bit of tension?
I don't talk about it much; but one of those speed bumps was a failed marriage of 20 years. Can we say LIFE CHANGING?
I really am a quiet person and it's one of those shameful moments in life that you don't necessarily spread all over the internet. HA HA Someone broke me of that... Thank You Beautiful!
Hence here we are.....
I think it can be a learning moment for someone out there...
We all learn to wear masks and even in a marriage people wear, their secret agendas, and how quickly they will compromise their very own integrity over hate, and revenge.
We are meant to be better than that and one main reason I didn't share about this black eye in my life. I was determined to not involve my friends, my family, or anyone who knew us.
Learned quickly that public opinion would be lost as they didn't do the same. Well, everyone has to answer for their deeds. I can raise my head on this one... Not that it matters.
Hate can easily bring you down a path that you will regret later one. Just like the old adage says... once you say it (do it)... you can never take it back! The damage will always be there!
So the question, everyone right now is asking... What happened, why did they break up?
AND HERE IT IS...
No juicy adulterous affairs to talk about... No living a dual life as a secret agent...
Just two people who never truly connected being pulled apart and manipulated by external forces. Brought together running away from family manipulation, a desire for freedom, and a desire for something more! Escapism!
I married young, and couple that with continual overbearing external forces...
Seems everyone had their own agenda. Sad part is that too often marriages are held together with duct tape. People standing by delusional commitments that were made out of obligation, fear, and held together by the pure intention of religious manipulation.
My first marriage was like two ships passing through the harbor living separate lives less than what God intended or created.
Can we say dysfunctional? No relations before, and none for the first year plus!
YES YOU HEARD THAT PG VERSION
NO S*x, NO Relations, Just Playing House 🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦
That was just the tip of the iceberg and eventually when the big day arrived... we had grown so far apart that it was numbing.
More life distractions and I was in an out-of-control spiral that led to depression, feeling of being lost... and no way out (Did not believe in divorce).
At the lowest of lows... I would actually pray for a quick way out... Which never came! I loved my kids, felt betrayed by the church, and felt alone not being able to talk to anyone for fear of judgment, persecution, and shame. Yes, Shame!
However, that was my life lesson to learn.
- A lesson in family and boundaries
- A lesson in running from things (they always come back to haunt you)
- A life wasted (Expecting things to change doing the same thing)
Marriage wasn't a complete waste, God brought two wonderful girls into this life and they are a blessing to all those they touch.
I've learned so many things from it and maybe my school of hard knocks.
So I know one question is still out there... Who filed for divorce?
Answer: I did - I felt continuing to live in a loveless marriage being blamed for every failure inside of it... and during the lowest point in my life... I remember the main thought was that I was teaching my kids that it was ok to be in a marriage like that.
It cost me my relationship, friends, family, and even many of my clients; however, I still stand by my decision.
In the end, my greatest heartache is my kids... I leave that for another post...
So yes all of it I found LOVE! She has taught me what a good marriage is supposed to be.
Takes a bad marriage to appreciate a good one!
She has fixed me in so many ways... Yes you can imagine how broken I was. But my greatest appreciation for her is for Fixing my relationship with GOD! It was her faith that brought me back home. She is my angel and for her, I live my life with happiness and joy. God bless you Beautiful!
**Proverbs 18:22 - He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.**
This leads me to part with a few life lessons... 11 to be exact!
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This leads me to my top 11 Life lessons... So you don't have To!
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👉 Your entire life can change in an instant. So instead of passively taking what you have for granted, be grateful for it and do whatever good you can with it.
👉 It’s okay to feel lost sometimes; the truth is that you owe nothing to your younger self, but you owe everything to your present self.
👉 Action breeds more clarity than thought, so you can’t think your way into a new life, you have to act your way into one.
👉 Chasing happiness will lead you to misery until you realize that happiness is going the other way.
👉 If you want to change the trajectory of your life, embrace these rules and apply them (CCP):
Commitment is what gets you started,
Consistency is what gets you somewhere, and
Persistence is what keeps you going.
👉 We break down little by little, day by day, but we also take care of ourselves, and build ourselves up, little by little, day by day.
👉 Share your progress, not your goals, and you’ll always be motivated.
👉 Every second you spend comparing your life to someone else’s is a second spent wasting yours; so stop comparing and create your own definition of success instead.
👉 Designing a meaningful life you love is possible, but doing what you love won’t make life any easier—it will just make you more disciplined and more joyful.
👉 Whether right or wrong, everything you do is born out of a set of beliefs. This implies that self-care is not all roses and chocolates; self-care is going deep within to surface all the subconscious behavioral and thought patterns that are sabotaging your growth.
👉 When you play the quick short-game you win small, but when you play the sequential long-game and allow yourself the time to grow, you win big. So be impatient with your actions, but be patient with your results.
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