05/29/2026
Allow me a little moment of reflection today.
Or at least the kind of wisdom that arrives after enough mistakes.
I seem to live in two modes. Either Iâm flying somewhere above the clouds, talking myself into impossible dreams, or I need a few days in pajamas with a bun on top of my head.
Actually, letâs be honest. The bun is not a phase. The bun is a lifestyle.
Iâve grown fond of the quiet days that come after the storm.
Not because Iâm tired.
Because those are the days when I get to sharpen things. Habits. Thoughts. Priorities. The small invisible things that eventually become a life.
And Iâve learned to ask myself a question that is both simple and annoyingly difficult:
âOksana, what is one thing you do every day that makes your life harder?â
Then ask it again.
And again.
Until the honest answer finally shows up.
Thatâs discipline, I think.
Not punishing yourself.
Not becoming someone else.
Just doing a little less of what hurts you and a little more of what nourishes you.
Life changes surprisingly fast when you start choosing yourself and your people more often.
Last Wednesday we couldnât open the boutique. The rain fell all day, two suppliers never arrived, and there was nothing to do but surrender to the weather.
So I sat by the window and watched the mountains disappear into the fog.
And I wrote.
Two chapters for the book Iâve been carrying in my heart.
Both about my grandmother Anna.
When I was a little girl, I used to tell her,
âOne day Iâll have a daughter, and Iâll name her Anna. Sheâll be strong like you.â
My grandmother would laugh.
Now I look at my daughter Anna and sometimes I think life listened more carefully than I did â¤ď¸
She is stronger than me.
Stronger than her father.
Perhaps even stronger than my grandmother.
She catches on to everything before anyone has to explain it. She walks into a room already believing she belongs there. I admire that about her.
The funny thing is that somewhere along the way she stopped being just my daughter.
She became my friend.
A real one.
The kind who gives advice.
And somehow I find myself listening.
My wardrobe has been quietly migrating into her closet for years now. My Dyson has officially taken up residence on her vanity table. I pretend to object, but secretly I love it.
Because there is something deeply comforting about watching your children become people you genuinely enjoy spending time with.
People you would choose.
People who feel like home.
Anyway.
Enough philosophy for one morning.
There are croissants waiting to emerge from the oven, desserts waiting to find their people, and a little pastry boutique in the mountains waiting to wake up.
Life is short.
Come by if youâre nearby.
The coffee is hot, the croissants are flaky, and everything was made with the same ingredient my grandmother believed solved most problems in life:
A generous amount of love
đđđ