07/04/2016
Café for One
It might be a personality thing but I do, more often than not, enjoy being a loner. I think doing things alone brings lots of freedom, flexibility and sometimes surprises.
Most people I know don’t feel comfortable eating alone or going out to restaurants on their own. Afraid of what other patrons might think, afraid of being singled out, they’d rather eat at fast food chains for their impersonal environment, or simply would rather order take out and hide in the comfort of their lonely apartments.
As a first step into the realm of dining alone, I think the most appropriate place would be coffee shops. Not only is sipping on a cup of coffee much less involving than eating a full meal, it also requires much less attention, allowing you the freedom to people watch, rather than being concerned of being watched. Also, café staff are well used to patrons spending hours on end over a single cup of coffee, so you don’t need to feel pressured to hurry, leave or spend (some exceptions apply though, especially in cities where personal space is scarce). And if you feel you need props to help you distract nosy onlookers, bring along a laptop or a book and you’re set to be incognito.
In recent years, trying out and discovering new cafes has become an interest, if not a mission. Whether it is on my days off in town or during my overseas travels, whenever I long for some me-time, I would go in search of that perfect place to spend some quiet time. Obviously, different cafes have different vibes and some, more than others, are particularly suitable for drinking solo. Slowly, I am compiling a list of places that are particularly enjoyable to spend time at, whether it is for the food, the drink, the atmosphere, the location, the staff, or all of the above.