Messy Mind Mum

Messy Mind Mum This page is for the mums who feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and like they’re just trying to hold it all together. You’re not alone here 🤍

ADHD, homeschooling, rebuilding life after everything changed.

05/06/2026

Life looks very different now.

For years I’ve joked that I’m not cut out to be a full-time mum.

The truth is, I don’t think I was ever cut out for sitting still. I’ve always needed a project, a purpose, something to build, fix, research, create, or fight for.

Then life happened.

The business closed.

We lost our home.

I’ve spent more time in hospitals than coffee shops recently.

And somewhere along the way, I’ve found myself spending more time just being Mum.

School runs.

Nursery runs.

Cuddles.

Snack negotiations.

Toy dinosaurs in places they absolutely shouldn’t be.

And do you know what?

It’s growing on me.

Don’t get me wrong. I still need purpose. I still need challenge. I still need an income because Bluey episodes don’t pay the bills.

But for the first time in a long time, I’m not chasing perfection.

I’m chasing progress.

Done and learning is enough.

I don’t know exactly what the next chapter looks like yet. What I do know is that I’ve learned more in the last year than I did in the previous ten.

So here’s to starting before you’re ready.

Here’s to figuring it out as you go.

Here’s to taking messy action.

And here’s to trusting that sometimes life falls apart so something different can grow in its place.

Let’s see where this goes. ❤️

Yes, I’ve been very quiet.Life has been one huge juggling act lately.A few weeks ago, I had surgery for an ectopic pregn...
05/06/2026

Yes, I’ve been very quiet.

Life has been one huge juggling act lately.

A few weeks ago, I had surgery for an ectopic pregnancy after spending 10 days in hospital. I’m home now, recovering, but as most parents know, there isn’t much time to stop. Life carries on.

I’m tired. I’m stressed. My hormones are doing all sorts of strange things. It’s another chapter in a story I’m slowly finding the courage to share.

Today has felt particularly long. I’ve been awake since 6am yesterday, Luca has refused to sleep, and my to-do list is still staring at me.

But I’m here.

Despite everything, I still have plans. I still have ideas. I still have hope.

None of this hardship is going to waste. Every challenge has taught me something, and in time I hope to share those lessons with you.

I also want to say how deeply grateful I am to everyone who has checked in, sent kind messages, or simply stayed with me through the silence. Your support has meant more than I can put into words, especially on the days when things have felt overwhelming.

Thank you for your continued support and patience over the last seven months. It’s truly been something of a nightmare.

For now, this is just a little update to say I’m still here, still fighting, and slowly finding my way forward. I am coming back, and I’m really excited to share my next adventure. ❤️

Something new… and a little bit exciting ☕️✨After everything with The Mindful Mug, I wasn’t sure what was next for me… b...
02/05/2026

Something new… and a little bit exciting ☕️✨

After everything with The Mindful Mug, I wasn’t sure what was next for me… but I’ve found myself back where I belong; in a kitchen, creating, connecting, and being part of something meaningful.

This time, it’s a little different.
This isn’t my café or my business; but I’m so excited to be joining Wickerbys Community Café in Grantham as kitchen manager 💛

It’s a beautiful community space with a real purpose behind it; and I’m genuinely proud to be part of it.

If you’ve followed my journey before, it would mean so much to see some familiar faces come down and support this next chapter 🫶

We’re opening Wednesday this week (10–4) for our soft launch week…
and we’ve got a little treat for you 👀
🍰 Cake is BUY ONE GET ONE FREE with any hot drink for the first week

Whether you pop in for a coffee, a catch up, or just to say hi…
I’d love to see you there 🤍

One year ago… I opened my café ☕️Today… I sat my first interview in over a year.Life really said plot twist didn’t it 😅O...
02/04/2026

One year ago… I opened my café ☕️
Today… I sat my first interview in over a year.

Life really said plot twist didn’t it 😅

Out of 50+ job applications… this was the ONE that came back.
And I just knew… this feels right.

I prepped.
I had my notes.
I practiced.

And then… my brain went ✨chaos mode✨

Forgot what I was saying.
Mixed up a question.
Words all over the place.

But instead of spiralling… I paused.

I said:
“Sorry, my brain’s going a million miles an hour; I just need a second.”

Took a breath.
Carried on.

And honestly? I’m proud of that.

Because it wasn’t perfect.
But it was real.

And right now… real is enough.

We’re not meant to be flawless.
We’re meant to keep going; even when it’s messy.

So if you’re in a season where everything feels uncertain…
this is your sign to just show up anyway ❤️

Hey mindfulmuggers… it’s still me 🤍Same page. Same person. Same honesty.Just… a very different chapter.The café isn’t pa...
29/03/2026

Hey mindfulmuggers… it’s still me 🤍

Same page. Same person. Same honesty.

Just… a very different chapter.

The café isn’t part of my life anymore.
And if I’m honest; neither is the version of me that built it.

The last few months have been a lot.

Losing the business.
Losing stability.
Trying to hold everything together for the kids.

And somewhere in the middle of all that…
I’ve had to figure out who I am without it.

So this page is changing.

No more coffee shop content.
No pretending everything’s fine.

Just real life.

The messy mind.
The hard days.
The rebuilding.

👉 is where I’m taking this now.

My journey. My lessons. My mistakes.

If you’ve been here from the café days… thank you. Honestly.

And if you’re still here for this next bit…
it might not be polished
but it will always be real 🤍

25/03/2026

After all the chaos… we begin the next chapter.

Homeschooling wasn’t part of the plan.
But at this point… nothing surprises me anymore.

If you’d asked me last week, I was loving life.
Sunshine. Productive. On top of everything.

This week?
Exhausted.

The weather’s changed… and so has everything else.

From business owner
To homeless
To full-time mum
To now homeschooling…

Some days feel calm.
Others feel like chaos.

Homeschooling with a toddler and a restless 11-year-old?
It’s not what I signed up for… but here we are.

If your life flipped overnight too… you’re not alone 🤍

Maybe it’s time I share the real journey.

To everyone who donated, shared, or supported my recent fundraiser, thank you 💛As many of you already know, The Mindful ...
25/02/2026

To everyone who donated, shared, or supported my recent fundraiser, thank you 💛

As many of you already know, The Mindful Mug has now closed. I know some of you were hoping for a part 2 in a new location, and for a while I was holding on to that hope too. But after a lot of reflection, I’ve made the difficult decision not to reopen anytime soon.

Because of that, I’ve issued refunds to everyone who kindly donated. You should see the money returned to your bank. It didn’t feel right to keep it when the original purpose can no longer be fulfilled.

Thank you for believing in me. Truly. When I didn’t believe in myself, you showed up. You believed in my vision. You supported me with kindness and generosity. I am devastated it didn’t work out the way I dreamed, but I will never forget the way you rallied around me.

I’ve only briefly shared parts of what the last year has looked like. It’s been hard to find the words. The experience has been traumatic for us all, and my children need me now more than ever. They have lost a lot of me over the past year.

Slowing down and being present with my boys, even on the messy days, has been a blessing in disguise.

I’m not disappearing. I’ll still be here. I’m going to continue sharing my journey and what I’ve learned, in the hope that it might help someone else avoid the mistakes I made or feel less alone in theirs.

Thank you for everything. Always 💛
Charlotte

I am s**t at social media.I slowed down for a second this afternoon.Looked around the empty café.Walked through the empt...
03/02/2026

I am s**t at social media.

I slowed down for a second this afternoon.
Looked around the empty café.
Walked through the empty flat.

We were only here from April to December; nine months.
But honestly? That’s plenty of time to make memories.

Standing there, I shook my head and realised how many “content opportunities” I missed.

The fire brigade inspecting our place.
Being evicted from a hotel while a staff member literally held the door open.
Countless trips back and forth with our whole life in bags.
That last-second escape to Cleethorpes.
Me attempting roller skating (humbling, to say the least).

The good bits.
The really s**t bits.

Truth is; when you’re in crisis, you’re not thinking about angles, captions, or bloody reels. You’re just surviving.

The last year was The Mindful Mug.
Time, energy, money; poured into something I believed in.
And yes, it took time away from the people who mean the world to me.

Some people said I was mad.
They weren’t wrong.
But at least I fu***ng tried.

I don’t see it as a failure.
I gave it everything I had.
I learned more than I ever expected.
And I met some truly incredible humans along the way.

As much as I miss it, stepping back has been… grounding.
Being present. Even when the moment is dark.

I’m surrounded by love.
Still filled with hope.
And I’ll probably always be s**t at social media.

But if you take anything from this;
do something kind for a stranger today.
Something small. Something human.
You never know what someone’s carrying.

Drop a 🤍 if you’ve been in survival mode too - know you aren't alone 🤍





Thank you to everyone who’s checked in, messaged, called, or thought of us.I’m really sorry I haven’t replied to everyon...
31/01/2026

Thank you to everyone who’s checked in, messaged, called, or thought of us.
I’m really sorry I haven’t replied to everyone yet.

I’ve been in a hole.
It’s been dark.
But I’ve got my ladder now; and I’m slowly climbing back up.
It’s going to take time though; I’m processing a lot.

I will share my story soon.
It’s honestly unbelievable; and I’ve learned more lessons than I ever expected to.
Just not quite ready to tell it all yet.

For now; we’re with Nathan and his mum and dad in Waltham.
We are safe.
We are warm.
And most importantly; we are together.

Life has changed very suddenly and very unexpectedly.
I’m trying to put on a brave face; for my boys; and for myself.

If you can be anything; please be kind.
I challenge you to do something nice for someone today.
It doesn’t have to be big; just something small that might make their day a little lighter.

Everyone is fighting a battle.
Often we don’t know the full extent.
It can be dark.
It can be lonely.
But together; we can help lift each other up.
Even a smile can make someone’s day a little bit brighter 🤍

I didn’t think it could get worse… then this week we became street homeless.Support was stopped after I had a meltdown, ...
11/01/2026

I didn’t think it could get worse… then this week we became street homeless.

Support was stopped after I had a meltdown, labelled abusive & because there was a “male in the room” —that was my son’s dad, who I called because I hadn’t slept properly for days and I needed help to keep the kids safe.

Being told to “call the crisis team” while support is removed is a level of cruelty I can’t explain.

We’ve escaped to Cleethorpes until Tuesday because I can’t face returning to Lincoln tomorrow just to be told the temporary house still isn’t ready.

I have been in survival mode. It's been great to make the most of a bad situation and escape for a bit.

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