09/29/2026
Yesterday was a HARD day. I was short, impatient, and struggling to be what my kids needed in pretty much every way possible it felt like. Those are my least favorite of days. The days when I just can’t seem to reset my spirit or my nervous system, the days when I just fail again and again to meet my kids the way they need it and it becomes contagious until everyone is just grumpy and short with one another.
We had gone through what felt like most of our day this way and then my son asked me to cut his hair. And while that may not seem like an odd request in and of itself, it’s usually something he doesn’t really enjoy and usually has to be talked into over a course of days or weeks. So, when he asked me to cut it, I knew I better take the chance while I had it! But I also knew I better have an improved heart posture before I got started or it could go sideways and he could end up changing his mind mid haircut and then what would I do?
So I took a few minutes and a few deep breathes while he got out the supplies and we got started! It thankfully went so well and it was a sweet way of resetting. We had time to talk, and I had to practice my tenderness because again, this is not his favorite experience! By the end I had apologized, we had repaired, and we were hugging and feeling good.
And while I was cutting his hair my girls woke up from nap time and joined us. My 3 year old asked if I would cut hers next. She’s been asking a bit here and there but she’s never had a hair cut and there’s something about that first one that just feels so emotional for me! 😭 (My oldest daughter never actually asked for her first hair cut, her brother actually gave it to her for free! 😅😅) So this time, making a decision about that first cut felt big. But, while I might not have felt ready, she definitely was, and I wanted to honor that. So we did. And it was very sweet and I’m glad I got to do it for her. It was just the tiniest of trims, but it made her happy and I think it healed something in us that we’re both really needed yesterday. ❤️🩹