07/04/2021
Autistic people are not a monolith.
If you’re the neurotypical parent of an autistic child and have the audacity to speak about your child’s autism, you’ve probably been told by people in the neurodiversity movement that you’re wrong— and that you need to “listen to autistic adults”.
And they’re right. You should. But that, of course, includes autistics adults like me. Those who support ABA therapy, who don’t believe autism is only a gift, and those who don’t think parents of autistic children are martyrs if they express any negativity about their child’s diagnosis. A diverse range of opinions. Not just THEIR opinions. Listening to the autistic adults, like me, who won’t jump down your throat for saying “person with autism” instead of “autistic person”. Those who don’t care if you light it up blue or red and choose the puzzle piece symbol over the infinity loop. And those who appreciate parents who share their struggles, whether they’re autistic or not.
You should listen to autistic voices but not only. Autism affects the whole family unit, so it’s worth listening to the family too. You should listen to my mom! To what it was like raising a child with high-functioning autism. You should listen to parents of nonverbal children – you know, people who don’t have the luxury of being able to advocate for themselves on social media.
There isn’t one single autistic voice. There’s no “we” when it comes to autistics. There’s no “we” because just like with neurotypical people, each of us is our own person with different views and different feelings!
